Nonviolent Communication Parenting

What is Nonviolent Communication, what does it have to do with Attachment Parenting, and how can it transform your life and our future?

Attachment Parenting, meeting the existential and developmental needs of our children, is the most effective way of building strong and secure attachments during infancy and toddler-hood, but what happens when co-sleeping and baby-wearing are no longer relevant strategies? When our children are older and we can’t seem to connect with them that much, or to communicate with them effectively? Now is the time to start practicing Nonviolent Communication.

What is Nonviolent Communication?  

Nonviolent Communication is the language of life, as coined by Marshall Rosenberg. It is the language of empathy, compassion, understanding of self, and mutual understanding. Nonviolent communication is a model allowing us to experience life and our loved ones as they truly are, free from the cross-generational burden of fear, guilt, and shame. Nonviolent Communication teaches us to communicate our needs, and hear the needs of others behind their spoken words, it allows us to address our inner desires and convey them to the ones we are communicating with. Nonviolent Communication offers us Pure Observation to free us from the interpretations binding us to anger and frustration; it opens the door for empathy and compassion towards ourselves and our loved ones.

Nonviolent Communication teaches us that we are the total sum of our needs and that our needs are the key to our feelings. Most simply put, when our needs are met, we are content and happy; when our needs are undermined, we are sad and frustrated. Since happiness is the one and only ultimate goal, everything we do is a strategy aimed at having our needs met. But the world we live in is not accustomed to communicating through needs and feelings. For decades we’ve been taught that behavior is the only thing worth noticing, as it is, indeed, the only parameter we can actually see. 

Where did We Lose it?

It was 7,000 years ago that Patriarchy raised its ugly head and claimed the Reign of Fear that is now prevalent more than ever. For the past 7,000 years, human societies have been systematically distancing themselves from actual humanism, from what being human actually means. The Reign of Fear rules our thoughts, and affirms our beliefs; we must be something in order to get somewhere, we must do it well enough and get there fast enough because there just isn’t enough for everyone. We ought to obtain the knowledge, the funds, and the assets, to gain the respect, and the social status without which, we are worthless. Or, at least, not as worthy as someone else. As much as this was correct at the dawn of the Neolithic and Industrial Revolutions, capitalism promoted the Reign of Fear to its current state – rooted so deep within us, we’re not even aware we are governed by it. Fear is our second skin.   

Happiness – Where have You Gone?

Happiness, upon its numerous synonyms, is the one state of mind that everyone wishes to reach, yet fewer and fewer people are happy; why is it so? Depression, loneliness, lack of self-worth, aggressiveness, violence, and suicide rates are skyrocketing all over the world. There was never, in all of history, an era more war-struck than the one we live in today.  

Nonviolent Communication can be the end of this, and the dawn of the bright world, moved by needs and feelings, moved by positivity. Spreading Nonviolent Communication is my personal goal and my biggest passion, and it starts with the way that we parent.

Parenting for the Future

The combination of Attachment Parenting and Nonviolent Communication into a single parenting method is life changing for anyone brave enough to step outside the social structure, sway from the destructive familiar and into the constructive, yet unfamiliar method of communication.

Using my method of Nonviolent communication you will learn the following:

  1. How judgment and interpretation affect you and your family life
  2. How to see the real, human occurrence that you’re in (without judgment and interpretation)
  3. How to use feelings as a compass leading you towards your and your loved ones’ needs
  4. How to communicate your needs and teach your loved ones to communicate their needs
  5. How to differentiate needs from strategies
  6. How to single out strategies that no longer work
  7. How to find alternative strategies that do work
  8. How to address the needs of your loved ones
  9. How to grow better and stronger attachments
  10. How to celebrate life and relationships to the fullest
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It is Time to Change the Future

Our children are the world’s future leaders, and their future starts with us. Our children will learn through ‘yes’ rather than ‘no’, they will learn that their feelings and actions don’t define them. They will learn to define who they are through their feelings and act upon them. They will learn to give through receiving, acceptance through love. They will find what they want, when we remove ‘you must’, they will learn to break through when we’ll free them from limits. These children will find courage by the removal of fear, they will find pride in the removal of guilt, they will find their true abilities by the removal of shame. By celebrating their natural dependence, they will become fully and truly independent.

If any of this touches you, join my Nonviolent Communication Parenting group on Facebook, participate in the weekly practices to make your life beautiful, enjoy the immense support and just have a lot of fun 🙂

If this touches you, and you feel that the connection between you and your children has been lost along the way – take one month of unlimited parent coaching to make everything right again. Reconnect, find the love, the empathy and the compassion that you’ve come to miss. Together we can do it – I promise 🙂