How to Raise a Peaceful Child in a Violent World

I don’t know where you are from, but where I come from, wars and violence are reigning in the region. 

Racism, fascism, inequality, violence, disrespect, and wars are taking over the world again, and no one knows where, when and how this might end. 

As war is raging around me, I started asking myself what is peace, and what it means to be a peaceful individual. Is peace merely the lack of war? Or is it something else?

I noticed that even when we are not actively fighting with someone or some thing, it still doesn’t mean that we are at peace with it. So it has to be something else. 

What is Peace? 

I eventually concluded that peace is a state of mind; we’re either programmed to seek resolutions and to act for peace, or we are constantly busy trying to understand who to blame for our situation, which causes frustration, anger, fear, resentment, and many other feelings that foster violence (of all sorts).

Individuals raised on the knees of hate and revenge will bring more hate and revenge into the world (unless they make the brave decision to change, and I admire those who do); people raised with compassion and empathy, will bring more compassion and empathy into this world. If we disregard happiness and ease, this is probably the most important reason to practice Positive Parenting.

Violence (and not only physical; fear, guilt, and shame are violence, too) removes us from our core; it turns fear into the primary catalyst of our actions, it makes us forget who we truly are, what we truly want, and what we believe in. But, facing violence, we have the power of choice. We can choose how to react to it, and we can choose to stay true to our heart. 

I choose to experience fear through hope, allow my fears to empower me to see what lives behind them –  love. When I fear of losing something or someone, it comes from a place of love for that someone or some thing, and that’s what I choose to see, what I choose to empower. And I’m not only doing this for myself – I am doing this for my children and their future. 

No matter what happens around me, I am a mother, and my children are the future leaders of this world. And so are yours. 

The world I create within my home is the world my children will foster as adults. The values I celebrate are the building blocks of my children’s soul. But how do we do that in a world that often goes against our values? How do we live Nonviolence, inclusion, acceptance, and unconditional love in a world that is so often so very violent? 

Here are my ten practices to raise peaceful children in a violent world, some are actions, others are a way of life:

Lead with Positivity

I actively seek the positive in every situation, word, and deed. I comment on the smallest and most insignificant things my children do, thus making them big and significant and empowering the positive. 

When my children hug me, I celebrate their hugs as if they were the most significant gifts in the world because they are. I do the same with the glass of water they bring to me, a smile, a touch. I actively make love important. 

I note, comment, and celebrate when they are kind to each other, I tell them how they deeds reflect upon them. When things are less kind, I tell them I trust them to find their way back to kindness. 

This sets a tone of kindness for a lifetime.

Embrace Cultural Celebrations

Actively participate in and celebrate various cultural festivals and holidays, whether they are a part of your family’s heritage. This exposure will help your children appreciate the richness of traditions worldwide.

Google festivals, choose the ones you like most, learn about their values and meanings, and then create the decorations with your child while sharing the cultural beauty behind them. Just imagine: you could take your child to a different country every day! 

Encourage Open Dialogue

We live in a world that frowns upon differences. No matter what you do, your children will one day come home with ideas and thoughts that were presented to them by others. Ideas that might go against yours, thoughts that don’t align with yours. You can’t control it. What you can control is how you react to it. 

Encourage open communication about differences, opinions, and ideas. Create a safe space where your children feel comfortable asking questions and expressing their thoughts about various topics. This fosters an environment where curiosity is welcomed and stereotypes can be addressed.

Cultivate a Diverse Library

Reading is a powerful tool for shaping young minds, communicating new ideas, and exposing your children to desired messages that are beautifully written and illustrated. When your child’s bookshelf reflects a diverse range of cultures, backgrounds, and perspectives, your child will grow up knowing that differences are beautiful, desired, and celebrated. This is the reason I started publishing books. It is the easiest, most enjoyable way to raise a peaceful child in a violent world.

Reading stories featuring characters from various walks of life fosters empathy, understanding, and inclusion. 

Engage with Communities 

Get involved in community activities that promote inclusivity. Attend events, join clubs, or volunteer for organizations that champion diversity. These experiences provide valuable opportunities for your children to interact with individuals from different backgrounds.

Opt for Media Literacy

There’s a lot to say about screens, but today I want to talk about when we need our children to watch for us to achieve something – and this is fine; we all do that (my 4YO is now watching Peppa Pig next to me as I write), but she’s next to me because I want to monitor the content she consumes. 

Be mindful of the media your family consumes. Choose shows, movies, and online content showcasing diverse casts and positive portrayals of various communities. Discuss the media’s influence on perceptions and debunk stereotypes together.

Teach Empathy Through Play

Engage in activities that encourage empathy. Role-playing scenarios that involve understanding different perspectives help children develop compassion and the ability to put themselves in others’ shoes.

Challenge Stereotypes

We often stay away from challenging topics when these are the topics we need to address most, even if and when it’s hard. 

Actively challenge stereotypes and biases that may arise in daily life. Use real-world examples to illustrate the harmful effects of preconceived notions. Addressing these issues head-on equips your children with the critical thinking skills needed to combat discrimination.

Always refer to your child’s heart: How does this thought make you feel? Does it widen your heart, or does it contract it? Do then with thoughts as well as actions. 

Reflect and Adjust:

Our beliefs are reflected in our actions. 

Regularly reflect on your own beliefs and actions. Children learn by example, so it’s crucial to model inclusive behavior. If you make assumptions or perpetuate stereotypes, use it as a teaching moment to show that growth and learning are ongoing processes.

Multicultural Mealtime

Now, this is actually fun! Explore the rich tapestry of world cuisines during mealtime. Introduce your children to diverse foods and explain the cultural significance behind them. This broadens their palate and cultivates an appreciation for global diversity.

In a world that thrives on diversity, it’s our responsibility as parents to nurture inclusive and accepting individuals. By incorporating these 10 practices into our daily lives, you will raise a peaceful child in a violent world.  

Want more? Check out my books. Each book has its unique way of promoting positivity, peace, empathy, sharing, acceptance, and unconditional love

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