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A little moment of honesty... Is all it takes. A

A little moment of honesty... Is all it takes.
A few hours ago I was presented with a plan I wasn't interested in. For the second time.
In the first time I defused the discussion, and redirected. As you'd say :) Today, as it came about again, I had two options:

1) To agree and make everyone else happy.
2) To disagree, cater to my own needs, and find an alternative plan that makes everyone happy.
I chose #2. Was it "dangerous"? Yes. Could it "fail"? Yes. Was it worth the "risk"? Yes, because it was my own peace of mind that I was risking.
Each time we choose to step away from a conflict of interests, we choose to step away from our interests, as - if there's the possibility for a conflict, there's something precious there that both sides are trying to protect.
Stepping away from a conflict necessarily means distancing ourselves from our needs, thus the outcome is the same as if "losing" the conflict.
Honesty, friends. Pure, judgment and accusation free honesty, is the only road out of every conflict. Because, unlike we are told, conflicts are only wars when we forget each other's humanity. When we're all connected, to ourselves and each other, a conflict is just another conversation.
How? Focus on what YOU are protecting, not on how the other party is jeopardizing it. Focus on what you need, not on how you feel when your need is threatened. Focus on what you want, not on what you don't want.
You'll be listened to, heard, and your wishes respected ❤️ (And, just in case you were wondering, I'll be covering everything you need to know about peaceful conflict management in my masterclass. Follow the link in my bio to sign up!) #mindfulness #mindfullness #conflictresolution #peaceofmind✌ #communicationiskey #positivemindset #standupforyourself #liveinpeace #parentingtips #relationship_goals #parentinggoals #coparentinggoals #nvc

Empowered life experience is not achieved after th

Tribal societies, in which "one for all and all fo

Tribal societies, in which "one for all and all for one" is a principal value, have been a passion of mine for as long as I can remember.
Would you like to take a minute to consider how living in this kind of a society would be like? How would it feel to never really think about yourself, but to know that everyone else is thinking about you? How would it feel never to be lonely, even when you are alone? How would it feel not to believe that people are working against you? Not to believe that the words of others undermine you? Not to believe that you are not as worthy as someone else?
How would it feel to be a part of a society in which every individual contributes as much as he can, and no one ever suspects him for not doing enough, saying enough, being enough?
How would it feel to live in a society where it is just OKAY to be YOU?
For our children, this society begins with us, yet we don't have anyone but ourselves to offer us this well-needed paradigm shift.
You might not have a tribe <yet>, but you can build one, create one, nurture one.
What do you NEED to start today?
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Our own expectations keep us away from the beauty

Our own expectations keep us away from the beauty of life.
No matter how wonderful something is, it simply can't be as good as we've previously envisioned it. Unless we don't envision. Unless we don't expect. Only then can every moment be a surprise, only then can we lead a life of joy. In the present. .
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#attachmentparenting #parenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #nonviolence #nvc #nonviolentcommunication #motherhood #mindfulparenting #mindfulness #childhood #calm #calmparenting #presentparenting #parentinginthepresent #raisingtoddlers #raisingchildren #raisingteens #intentionalparenting

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